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Feminism and the stereotypes

November 26, 2007 3 comments

Courtney E. Martin, who speaks across country speaking about feminist issues, has written a nice little piece on the stereotypes of feminism and why there are those awful stereotypes. And she also brings up an interesting point of how everyone, no matter race, gender, age or religion, knows the “standard” stereotypes of feminists, and feminism.

I ask them “What are the stereotypes you’ve heard about feminists?” After a few timid moments, folks start shouting a flood of unsavory characteristics: ugly, bitchy, man-hating, boring, angry, bra-burning.

I believe that feminism has attracted so many unsavory stereotypes because of its profound power and potential. It has gained such a reputation, been so inaccurately demonized, because it promises to upset one of the foundations on which this world, its corporations, its families, and its religions are based—gender roles.

I think she has a really good point about the gender roles and that’s the huge reason why everyone is so afraid of feminism. They are so ingrained in our society, culture and our own minds that they can’t possibly be shaken. What people are forgetting though when they think that is that everyone is an individual. I’ve said this before, and I’ll say it again as an example. My mother is not the “nurturer”, stay-at-home-mom. She should actually be running the country, because she can. And personally, I like that my mother is not the “nurturer”, because we clash anyway. She’s done her thing, and my dad’s also had a career, but he is far more the “nurturer”, even though I never had any stay-at-home-parent. That was fine with me! I’m not scarred at all. Through this example, I just wanted to show that men and women are all different and it’s wrong to put them in a box because they either have a penis or vagina.

Do you all think that gender roles are breaking down a bit? Or are they still as strong as ever?

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Sucky commercial of the day!

November 21, 2007 Leave a comment

This Quizno’s commercial reminds us that the “perfect, pretty girls” are always in control and that the “ugly” people will always want to be them. This link unfortunately doesn’t have the last 2 or 3 seconds, when the woman with the sandwich is flattered when the “perfect” woman says “I hate you.” Blech.

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Cool mini-documentary on feminism

November 16, 2007 Leave a comment

This little gem of a video let’s you know the basics of feminism, feminist stereotypes and it talks about this dreadful “f” word that so many women are afraid of, and why.

Oh, eww.

November 15, 2007 Leave a comment

Video games, specifically for girls. No gender neutral games allowed! My personal favourite is “Imagine Babyz” (notice how babies is totally spelt sooo kewl!),

Your character is just a baby-sitter, so you only have to keep the brats out of trouble for short periods. You may need to feed them, entertain them or change their diapers, all tasks that are presented as relatively easy minigames.

Just a babysitter…oh goodness. It’s still feeding the minds of young girls that all they’re good for are raising babies! Besides “Babyz”, there’s also “Master Chef”, “Fashion Designer” and “Animal Doctor” (god forbid a girl actually become a people doctor!)

This stuff truly grosses me out. I have no problem with video games, ok, actually, I hate them, but kids play them and that’s ok. But if girls start playing these games, what the hell are they going to think they should do in life? If they truly decide at 20 that they want to be a stay-at-home-mom, then I’m completely fine with that, but forcefeeding them into something that they may not be is not something I can support.

Yuck.

Does fullfillment come from men and children?

October 31, 2007 2 comments

There is an interesting article debate over at Huffington Post. It’s worth the read, by the way!

The first article, by the founder of thestateof.com said that fullfillment most definitely comes from men and children for women. Some highlights…

Feminism has destabilized society by undermining heterosexuality and the family. This perverse assault on gender difference is disguised as an act of “defense” of women’s’ and homosexuals’ “right” to be single and childless. Women have been duped into seeking “power” and “independence” (aloneness) through climbing the mirage of the corporate ladder. What women really want is power expressed as male love.

Without a child to care for, a woman often becomes frustrated, bitter and distracted. She often uses the “success” of her “career” (which is simply a glorified word for “job”) as a replacement for the void of the missing child.

Ok, some of my points now. First of all, do women and homosexuals not have a right to remain childless or single? No law is saying that anyone is obliged to have children or be in a couple, married or cohabiting. And guess what? “Independence” is not aloneness. It’s being able to not have to depend on another person, which a life skill that everyone should have. At times, we are able, or can choose to rely on people, because it would be hell if we couldn’t, but being independent does not mean “aloneness”. Oh, and that power expressed as male love? Give me a break. Sure, we’d all love some love, but that’s not the only thing that we can have for fullfillment!

Also…some women honestly do not want child and are completely happy with their pure careers. There is nothing wrong with this. Some women are not nurturers. For example, my father was and is the nuturer, or “mother role”, in the family, although currently he does make more money. While my mother is much more cold and distant, and takes much pride in her career choices. In the end, my father would be more devastated if he didn’t have a child than my mother. Why are people so keen to generalize women and men into one category?

The other article, by Rebecca Thorman, takes the other side of the argument.

Whether we check off men, children, career, or all of the above, the fact is that we have a choice, and what fulfills and limits us is not created by society and media, but increasingly our own desires.

The kind of woman who is a compassionate alpha. The Generation Y woman has leadership and strength, and promotes community and empathy. We don’t dismiss motherhood, but embrace our strengths and use those to change the workplace, reaping from it a greater sense of fulfillment than ever before. It is not a coincidence that at a time when power-hungry hierarchies are being broken down, women are leading and infiltrating the workplace. It is our skills and talents that have created such an influential shift.

I’ll just say that I obviously agree with the second article more. And just for the record, I do want some male lovin’, some kids, but I’m not going to give up my career for having that. Obvious sacrifice have to be made by both men and women when children come into the picture, and those sacrifices are individual choices and worked out in a personal setting. No overgeneralizing should still be occurring!

I think I’m an “Over-analysing, funny, man-hater!”

October 30, 2007 Leave a comment

This “news” comes all the way from Sydney. Supposedly, according to the Sydney Morning Herald, women are getting “scary” because they are so concerned with men vanishing into thin air that they need to “nab a man”. But not all men have taken to this “newfound aggressiveness that women have taken on”. The article then goes on to describe five types of “scary women”. And for sake of hilarity, trying to half-ignore the misogyny going on here, part of the descriptions are as follows:

The One Who Asks Men Out

Most men say they love it when they get asked out by a woman, but try getting asked out every single week and it’s enough to make their skin crawl. “I like to do the chasing,” is the common cry of the gents.

How am I not surprised that the men like doing the chasing?

The Over-Analyser

Ever noticed that some women over-analyse every single thing that men do? “Why didn’t he call?” “What did he really meant by that text message?” “Does that phone call from his ex while we were at dinner together really means he’s still sleeping with her?” Argh! No wonder the poor gents are fed up.

The Drama Queen

Instead of falling at her feet (she is absolutely gorgeous), it seems they prefer a more low-maintenance kind of gal, and want nothing to do with her crazy world. After all, they know dating a drama queen isn’t easy. It’s their way or the high-way.

The Funny Woman

Then there’s the gal who can make a crowd of punters laugh. According to an article in the Independent on Sunday in the UK, research reported in the scientific journal Evolution and Human Behaviour, recently revealed that funny women are a turn-off for men.

Seriously? Women can’t be funny now? Men always have to have the sense of humour? Give me a break and suck it up guys!

Finally…my favourite one!

The Man-hater

She abhors blokes, tries to catch them out when they are genuinely being friendly, and prefers to bitch about men with her feminist group than prowl the town in search of one. And the reason men don’t like her? She dates just like a man …

I really have no words. That was just…wow. I love how this article can seemingly generalize the whole population of women into five types of “scary women”. I guess we’re all in there somewhere!