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Oh the scandal!

December 19, 2007 6 comments

I am sorry that I have to make a post about the most recent famous teen pregnancy, but after reading some responses on People (I know, it’s horrible that I occasionally read that trash!), I have decided that I really do see a feminist issue within all of this.

First off, Jamie Lynn Spears and her boyfriend, Casey Aldridge, made a mistake. Probably some unprotected sex, because you know, abstinence only education is the way to be! And…seriously, who let’s there teenage children live together? But obviously this pregnancy thing wasn’t purposeful, and all we’re hearing now is how it’s all Jamie’s fault, as well as her mothers. This is why I had to respond to this news. Here are some quotes from People:

“This is a shock to anyone? Where are the role models? … I blame the parents on this one for not educating their daughters to behave like ladies (bold mine).

Ladies? Ladies? Seriously? So, her boyfriend had nothing to do with this? Give me a break! This was a decision on both their parts, and Jamie shouldn’t have to have misogynistic expectations on her just because she happens to have a vagina. We’re in a new age people! Women, and young women at that, have SEX. Oh there! I said it! They have sex! Get over it. And she doesn’t need education on how to behave like a lady. She, and her boyfriend, and the rest of the youth in the U.S. need a good, solid, sexual education program. That’s what they need.

And now onto the mother. Huffington Post said:

“Lynne Spears, what were you thinking? Or not thinking and not doing?”

Well, I must say, kids are growing up quite fast these days and they happen to have their own minds and make decisions for themselves. No parent can stop their child from having sex. And what about Jamie’s dad? Is he in all of this? Is he being held responsible with words like these? No. He’s not.

This is hopefully the first and last time I will posting on this, unless more feminist issues arise from it. I don’t want to make some spectacle out of this, as it already has been made out to be! But this is a clear example of why a comprehensive sexual education is needed. Teens are going to make these decisions either way, but they need to be educated about damn contraceptives!

Reminding everyone of Puirty Ball creepiness!

December 3, 2007 Leave a comment

I came across this interesting news article from the Chicago Tribune that discusses Purity Balls, sex, abstinence and the question of daughters being property to their fathers. It’s definitely a good read.

He signed a pledge to be the protector of her purity and to live his own life with integrity. She gave her father a gold key to her heart, and asked him to hold on to it until her wedding day, when he would hand it over to her husband. They walked down the aisle with locked arms and she laid a white rose beside a cross, sealing her commitment.

“It’s like I’m devoting my virginity to my dad, saying that I will stay pure because it is the Christian thing to do,” said Lindsay Anne Schell, 18, a freshman at Bradley University in Peoria. “The rose shows the world that you are devoting your purity to God and to your father.”

Huge issues. Devoting your virginity to your father? Sounds really messed up. Of course, girls need these purity balls because they obviously can’t stop themselves from having sex. Their father has to make sure they don’t have sex. And this gold key thing? Eww. That reeks of the time when women were property. And why the hell don’t they have these things for boys? Riight, their sexuality isn’t worth as much. They can just go fuck around if they want. But girls, nope, they need to remain pure! So many sexist issues and double standards come out of this. Too many to really talk about right now.

So, property? I say yes.

“These events represent an idea that there is something about female sexuality that needs to be controlled by dominant men in the household,” said Mary Zeiss Stange, a professor of women’s studies at Skidmore College in Saratoga Springs, N.Y. “That relates to a patriarchal position in the evangelical movement that not only defines female sexuality but females themselves as property. What happens with purity balls is, in effect, the daughter becomes her father’s property until he hands her off to her husband.”

How are these balls even accepted or allowed? Are people still so old fashioned and sexist that they think this is just the best thing since sliced bread? Oh…one more thing. Why aren’t mothers involved? They gave birth to their children. They deserve a little input, I’m thinking.

Sooooo many things wrong with these things.

Drunkeness causes “shame” for young women

November 5, 2007 Leave a comment

Or so the Daily Mail says. This article talks about the “shamefulness” of young women’s drunkeness and how they post these pictures on Facebook. I’ll admit, I have some drunken pictures on Facebook. That’s just how it is. It’s supposed to be a network for you and your friends…not for a newspaper to take pictures from to show the “shame” of these young women.

The article talks about the notorious “30 Reasons Girls Should Call It A Night” group, which over 150,000 young women have joined. I’mpretty sure it’s supposed to be rather innocent. I’ve personally been on that board before and it’s really not a big deal.

I’m not saying that this is empowering in any way, and it can sometimes be degrading towards women, but ultimately, it’s our choice if we choose to drink and get drunk. So seriously, leave these young women alone. It’s college. Everyone drinks in college.

Overall, this kind of drunkeness is “shameful” for females, while it is perfectly acceptable for males. When males are drunk and goofing off or do something outlandish, it’s looked at as funny. When females do the same thing, she’s looked at as a drunken whore or slut and she really should just stay home and knit, instead of having fun with her friends. It’s complete gender bias and a double standard that really shouldn’t still exist in our society.