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Married men are biggest earners. What’s new?

January 21, 2010 4 comments

A new study by Pew Research Center has come out, saying that the “biggest gainers were married college-educated men” in terms of income. Was that supposed to surprise me? Married college-educated men have generally always been the highest earners.

However, the study is saying that the reason these men are the biggest earners is because more women are receiving higher earnings. The study did a comparison with earnings in 1970, and said this:

“In the past, when relatively few wives worked, marriage enhanced the economic status of women more than that of men. In recent decades, however, the economic gains associated with marriage have been greater for men.”

Call me crazy, but I think marriage has always been good for economic status for men. For some reason, employers really love it when men settle down, buy a house, start a family, etc. These men work up the company ladder. They get the promotions. They receive more income.

However, it’s opposite for women. Once women are married, employers will automatically go into this “Oh crap, she’s going to have all these responsibilities now and maybe have kids! Ack!” mode. Married women somehow become unreliable and the expectation is that they’ll be spending more time in the home, and maybe care less about work. It’s ridiculous.

Just another double standard in our oh-so-wonderful society.

Small rant about the Tiger Woods thing

December 17, 2009 Leave a comment

Unless you’ve been living under a rock (which I wouldn’t necessarily blame you for), you know about Tiger Woods and his million affairs (fine, at least 14) that he’s had over the past few years. But really, he’s just getting such gracious treatment from most media outlets and people. Sure, his popularity has taken a plunge and he’s lost some sponsors, but everytime I hear something about Tiger, it’s never nasty or callous. In fact, Rudy Guliani has just come out and said that Tiger needs to “hang in there” and that he’s a “very, very fine man” and that “we know he’s going to get through it.” Um, sorry, I didn’t realize that he was the one that was going through all the pain and suffering when he really should have understood the consequences of having affairs with at least 14 women!

I mean, that’s just one example. I know a lot of people have seen the SNL skit that portrayed Tiger Woods and his wife, Elin Nordengren. I mean, the domestic violence thing just wasn’t funny at all – even if it was from Elin to Tiger, but what I noticed was that they made Tiger such a sympathetic character. While watching, you were supposed to feel sorry for Tiger because Elin was some crazy bitch who obviously made him have the affairs. It was bad and I was personally not impressed.

So here’s the kicker. Would a woman in the public eye be portrayed in this way in the media if she had 14 affairs on her husband? She absolutely would not! She would not be the sympathetic character, but her husband definitely would be. She would be called a whore, slut, ho and bitch. She might have to fight harder to keep her career, depending on what that was (because we all know that Tiger is going to walk back into golf and people will be soooooo happy). I mean, I just think it’s obvious that a woman would have a harder time. No would would give her the time of day and no one would be gracious to her, or allow her to graciously explain what happened. Yet, Tiger, with his at least 14 affairs, has been able to.

Now, I’m not saying that it’s all good stuff about him in the media, but it’s not nearly as bad as it necessarily should be. But, he’s a man. Since he’s a man, he has the freedom to do more wrongs and will be graciously forgiven. Women on the other hand…no chance in hell.


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CBS blurs out Adam Lambert’s same-sex kiss

November 25, 2009 Leave a comment

Really, CBS? I can’t believe that I was glad you decided to put Lambert on The Early Show when GMA canceled his spot!

The ironic thing is, CBS aired the Britney/Madonna kiss with no censorship at all (and in fact, I never saw any censorship from that kiss ever). But Lambert’s same-sex kiss needs to be censored? Is it the fact that you know he’s actually gay? Is that the problem? Or do more people have an issue with two men kissing, as opposed to two women? Probably both things rings true – although no one will admit it.

After Elton has the whole story here.

All this Adam Lambert controversy (and a little #ShameOnYouABC)

November 24, 2009 2 comments

Well, about everyone in the whole universe knows by now that Adam Lambert shared a kiss with one of his male bandmates, as well as simulated fellatio with a male dancer. I wanted to put up the video, but it seems as though the video has been taken down everywhere…so I will share a picture instead!

Needless to say, this shocked most of the population and over 1,500 people formally complained about this. Clearly, homophobia is rampant (not that you needed to remind me, but maybe some other people needed reminding?) Is what Lambert decided to do in his performance really threatening? Does it really do any harm? No. Actually, it doesn’t at all. And I can say without any doubt, that if a woman had been in Lambert’s place, no one would really care. Even if it were only women taking part in this performance, therefore it still being all same-sex, people wouldn’t have cared as much. But men aren’t supposed to act the way that Lambert did. He doesn’t fit the mold of hegemonic masculinity, so people are freaking out.

However, because of all this shock and all the complaints, ABC canceled Lambert’s spot on Good Morning America. People are pretty up in roar about it and this issue is taking over Twitter (hence the #ShameOnYouABC). Instead, he’s going to be appearing on The Early Show on CBS. The good thing about all of this is that Lambert is standing by his performance.

“You know honestly, if I offended some people… it’s apples and oranges. I’m not an artist that does things for every single person,” he told Access Hollywood after the show Sunday night. “I believe in artistic freedom and expression, I believe in honoring the lyrics of a song, and those lyrics aren’t really for everybody either.”

I’m glad he’s sticking to his guns, because we alllll know this is actually about his sexual orientation, as opposed to his actual performance.

Oh the scandal!

December 19, 2007 6 comments

I am sorry that I have to make a post about the most recent famous teen pregnancy, but after reading some responses on People (I know, it’s horrible that I occasionally read that trash!), I have decided that I really do see a feminist issue within all of this.

First off, Jamie Lynn Spears and her boyfriend, Casey Aldridge, made a mistake. Probably some unprotected sex, because you know, abstinence only education is the way to be! And…seriously, who let’s there teenage children live together? But obviously this pregnancy thing wasn’t purposeful, and all we’re hearing now is how it’s all Jamie’s fault, as well as her mothers. This is why I had to respond to this news. Here are some quotes from People:

“This is a shock to anyone? Where are the role models? … I blame the parents on this one for not educating their daughters to behave like ladies (bold mine).

Ladies? Ladies? Seriously? So, her boyfriend had nothing to do with this? Give me a break! This was a decision on both their parts, and Jamie shouldn’t have to have misogynistic expectations on her just because she happens to have a vagina. We’re in a new age people! Women, and young women at that, have SEX. Oh there! I said it! They have sex! Get over it. And she doesn’t need education on how to behave like a lady. She, and her boyfriend, and the rest of the youth in the U.S. need a good, solid, sexual education program. That’s what they need.

And now onto the mother. Huffington Post said:

“Lynne Spears, what were you thinking? Or not thinking and not doing?”

Well, I must say, kids are growing up quite fast these days and they happen to have their own minds and make decisions for themselves. No parent can stop their child from having sex. And what about Jamie’s dad? Is he in all of this? Is he being held responsible with words like these? No. He’s not.

This is hopefully the first and last time I will posting on this, unless more feminist issues arise from it. I don’t want to make some spectacle out of this, as it already has been made out to be! But this is a clear example of why a comprehensive sexual education is needed. Teens are going to make these decisions either way, but they need to be educated about damn contraceptives!

Reminding everyone of Puirty Ball creepiness!

December 3, 2007 Leave a comment

I came across this interesting news article from the Chicago Tribune that discusses Purity Balls, sex, abstinence and the question of daughters being property to their fathers. It’s definitely a good read.

He signed a pledge to be the protector of her purity and to live his own life with integrity. She gave her father a gold key to her heart, and asked him to hold on to it until her wedding day, when he would hand it over to her husband. They walked down the aisle with locked arms and she laid a white rose beside a cross, sealing her commitment.

“It’s like I’m devoting my virginity to my dad, saying that I will stay pure because it is the Christian thing to do,” said Lindsay Anne Schell, 18, a freshman at Bradley University in Peoria. “The rose shows the world that you are devoting your purity to God and to your father.”

Huge issues. Devoting your virginity to your father? Sounds really messed up. Of course, girls need these purity balls because they obviously can’t stop themselves from having sex. Their father has to make sure they don’t have sex. And this gold key thing? Eww. That reeks of the time when women were property. And why the hell don’t they have these things for boys? Riight, their sexuality isn’t worth as much. They can just go fuck around if they want. But girls, nope, they need to remain pure! So many sexist issues and double standards come out of this. Too many to really talk about right now.

So, property? I say yes.

“These events represent an idea that there is something about female sexuality that needs to be controlled by dominant men in the household,” said Mary Zeiss Stange, a professor of women’s studies at Skidmore College in Saratoga Springs, N.Y. “That relates to a patriarchal position in the evangelical movement that not only defines female sexuality but females themselves as property. What happens with purity balls is, in effect, the daughter becomes her father’s property until he hands her off to her husband.”

How are these balls even accepted or allowed? Are people still so old fashioned and sexist that they think this is just the best thing since sliced bread? Oh…one more thing. Why aren’t mothers involved? They gave birth to their children. They deserve a little input, I’m thinking.

Sooooo many things wrong with these things.

Drunkeness causes “shame” for young women

November 5, 2007 Leave a comment

Or so the Daily Mail says. This article talks about the “shamefulness” of young women’s drunkeness and how they post these pictures on Facebook. I’ll admit, I have some drunken pictures on Facebook. That’s just how it is. It’s supposed to be a network for you and your friends…not for a newspaper to take pictures from to show the “shame” of these young women.

The article talks about the notorious “30 Reasons Girls Should Call It A Night” group, which over 150,000 young women have joined. I’mpretty sure it’s supposed to be rather innocent. I’ve personally been on that board before and it’s really not a big deal.

I’m not saying that this is empowering in any way, and it can sometimes be degrading towards women, but ultimately, it’s our choice if we choose to drink and get drunk. So seriously, leave these young women alone. It’s college. Everyone drinks in college.

Overall, this kind of drunkeness is “shameful” for females, while it is perfectly acceptable for males. When males are drunk and goofing off or do something outlandish, it’s looked at as funny. When females do the same thing, she’s looked at as a drunken whore or slut and she really should just stay home and knit, instead of having fun with her friends. It’s complete gender bias and a double standard that really shouldn’t still exist in our society.