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Update on “Muder over hijab?”

December 14, 2007 1 comment

This story has apparently sparked a wildfire across North America, and I imagine maybe further than that. The Toronto Star states that,

On Facebook, at least 11 groups have surfaced in response, with more than 5,000 members, some ranting, some pontificating and others spewing racial epithets.

On YouTube, at least 11 videos, viewed in total more than 16,000 times, have been posted. One website, somalinet.com, published a story on Parvez’s death and included a poll about whether the father was justified in the alleged killing. As of last night, five of the 19 who responded agreed.

The girl who was murdered, Aqsa Parvez, is going to be buried tomorrow and over 1,000 people are expected to show up. This really is huge. It’s one thing when a teenager dies, but it’s a completely different thing when their parent kills them. And of course, with all the Islamophobia in the world right now, it’s even a bigger deal.

An Islamic leader spoke to the press yesterday about the situation and stated that “parents fail and bring shame upon themselves if a child chooses to abandon holy writings and not wear the hijab.” As well,

“It is their duty to convince their kids that this part of their culture,” he said. However, he said Muslims “categorically” denounce acts of murder. “This is not allowed in Islam, totally.”

I really don’t like that statement. I mean, yes, he’s saying that murder is not allowed in Islam, yet at the same time he’s defending the father. I can understand a parent wanting certain things for their children, but parents must respect their children’s choices if they choose another way.

Finally, at the end of this article, Shaila Kibria, who works on human right issues within the Muslim community, said that this is a greater, greater issue than the hijab, which is something that I stated in my previous post about this issue.

“It’s so controversial because there are so many interpretations about whether the hijab is a requirement in Islam,” said the 32-year-old who chooses to wear the hijab. “But the hijab and religion are not the real issues. What this poor girl went through, which is domestic violence and violence against women, isn’t being recognized; what’s being recognized is the hijab.”

If the discussion remains centred on the issue of the hijab, Kibria said she fears Muslim men won’t take responsibility for the “extremist religious patriarchy” that exists within their community.

I completely agree with her, and hopefully more will see this. This heinous violent act has unfortunately been covered up by the hijab, and not taken for what it really is.

Murder over hijab?

December 11, 2007 2 comments

I really am not trying to attack Islam in any way, but today, it’s just how the stories are coming!

A 16-year-old girl in Toronto was declared dead after her father allegedly attacked her for not wanting to wear a hijab. Of course, this is not the whole story. The two were having arguments about this and she didn’t want to follow the conventional way and was possibly planning to run away.

Aqsa Parvez’s friends told CBC News that the teen had been having arguments with her father because he allegedly wanted her to wear a traditional hijab.

“She kinda wanted to go a different way from the way her family wanted her to go,” said one friend.

They also said that she wanted to escape the family conflict by running away.

The father has been arrested and has admitted to the murder.

This is just one extremely sad and unfortunate events. It looks like a generational disagreement at first, but it had to take the next extreme step. I’m not really sure what to say. It seems as though religion, conservatism and sexism rear its very ugly head here. But let’s just strip away the religious aspect. Too much is blamed on religion nowadays, in my personal opinion. This is a heinous crime that no father should commit against his daughter. I have a very hard time believing that this is a purely religious conflict. I could be completely wrong though. I honestly don’t know enough about Islam to say much more about that. But the fact is that a 16-year-old daughter was killed by her father. I hope justice is brought to this case.

Reminding everyone of Puirty Ball creepiness!

December 3, 2007 Leave a comment

I came across this interesting news article from the Chicago Tribune that discusses Purity Balls, sex, abstinence and the question of daughters being property to their fathers. It’s definitely a good read.

He signed a pledge to be the protector of her purity and to live his own life with integrity. She gave her father a gold key to her heart, and asked him to hold on to it until her wedding day, when he would hand it over to her husband. They walked down the aisle with locked arms and she laid a white rose beside a cross, sealing her commitment.

“It’s like I’m devoting my virginity to my dad, saying that I will stay pure because it is the Christian thing to do,” said Lindsay Anne Schell, 18, a freshman at Bradley University in Peoria. “The rose shows the world that you are devoting your purity to God and to your father.”

Huge issues. Devoting your virginity to your father? Sounds really messed up. Of course, girls need these purity balls because they obviously can’t stop themselves from having sex. Their father has to make sure they don’t have sex. And this gold key thing? Eww. That reeks of the time when women were property. And why the hell don’t they have these things for boys? Riight, their sexuality isn’t worth as much. They can just go fuck around if they want. But girls, nope, they need to remain pure! So many sexist issues and double standards come out of this. Too many to really talk about right now.

So, property? I say yes.

“These events represent an idea that there is something about female sexuality that needs to be controlled by dominant men in the household,” said Mary Zeiss Stange, a professor of women’s studies at Skidmore College in Saratoga Springs, N.Y. “That relates to a patriarchal position in the evangelical movement that not only defines female sexuality but females themselves as property. What happens with purity balls is, in effect, the daughter becomes her father’s property until he hands her off to her husband.”

How are these balls even accepted or allowed? Are people still so old fashioned and sexist that they think this is just the best thing since sliced bread? Oh…one more thing. Why aren’t mothers involved? They gave birth to their children. They deserve a little input, I’m thinking.

Sooooo many things wrong with these things.