Oh the scandal!

I am sorry that I have to make a post about the most recent famous teen pregnancy, but after reading some responses on People (I know, it’s horrible that I occasionally read that trash!), I have decided that I really do see a feminist issue within all of this.

First off, Jamie Lynn Spears and her boyfriend, Casey Aldridge, made a mistake. Probably some unprotected sex, because you know, abstinence only education is the way to be! And…seriously, who let’s there teenage children live together? But obviously this pregnancy thing wasn’t purposeful, and all we’re hearing now is how it’s all Jamie’s fault, as well as her mothers. This is why I had to respond to this news. Here are some quotes from People:

“This is a shock to anyone? Where are the role models? … I blame the parents on this one for not educating their daughters to behave like ladies (bold mine).

Ladies? Ladies? Seriously? So, her boyfriend had nothing to do with this? Give me a break! This was a decision on both their parts, and Jamie shouldn’t have to have misogynistic expectations on her just because she happens to have a vagina. We’re in a new age people! Women, and young women at that, have SEX. Oh there! I said it! They have sex! Get over it. And she doesn’t need education on how to behave like a lady. She, and her boyfriend, and the rest of the youth in the U.S. need a good, solid, sexual education program. That’s what they need.

And now onto the mother. Huffington Post said:

“Lynne Spears, what were you thinking? Or not thinking and not doing?”

Well, I must say, kids are growing up quite fast these days and they happen to have their own minds and make decisions for themselves. No parent can stop their child from having sex. And what about Jamie’s dad? Is he in all of this? Is he being held responsible with words like these? No. He’s not.

This is hopefully the first and last time I will posting on this, unless more feminist issues arise from it. I don’t want to make some spectacle out of this, as it already has been made out to be! But this is a clear example of why a comprehensive sexual education is needed. Teens are going to make these decisions either way, but they need to be educated about damn contraceptives!

  1. December 19, 2007 at 9:02 pm

    I don’t know why you’re complaining; it’s men – her boyfriend in particular – who are being insulted by their attitude. We’re automatically assumed to be rampaging lechers with neither thought nor care for contraceptives. That’s why people focus on the girls; guys are assumed to bad, irresponsible and incorrigible.

  2. December 19, 2007 at 9:14 pm

    On the opposite end, girls are expected to be spotless and pure. That’s a point I was trying to get at. It is impossible to be spotless and pure and when a girl does something wrong, she’s completely shamed for it. Her boyfriend isn’t being shamed and being put through the same process as her (obviously, it wouldn’t be on the same level completely because of her “fame” and his “nobody” status) It is true that the male sex is expected to be “bad, irresponsible and incorrigible,” but because of that, he’s getting none of the blame. And well, this obviously takes two people!

  3. December 19, 2007 at 9:30 pm

    He’s been pre-blamed and then excused – mental incompetence I guess – because that’s the way men are – beasts. Oh, she’s getting her own share of the crap too; I freely admit that.

  4. December 19, 2007 at 10:18 pm

    Your comments are completely valid. And what you said, men being “beasts”, that’s a whole other issue that needs to be looked at. I think it’s very unfortunate that many men and boys are perceived in that way. Personally, I agree that men get excused because they are sometimes perceived as “beasts.” But because men are expected to be certain way, and then excused, it feeds into the notion that “boys will be boys,” and that their behaviour is ultimately acceptable. However, on a woman’s end, she’s put to shame if she doesn’t fulfill her “lady-like duty.”

    But the fact of the matter is, the media is extremely influential and since it’s mainly talking about Jamie Lynn and her mother, it may lead to more people forgetting about the men in this issue, or it could just be an afterthought. That’s simply not fair for them and every other woman who has gone through this situation.

  5. December 20, 2007 at 9:27 am

    You’re absolutely right about the effects of the media.

  6. Teenage Mom
    April 26, 2008 at 1:19 pm

    I agree with you totally. I was a pregnant teen and it was mine (and my now husband) who made the choice. The school we went to was not allowed to do any kind of Sex Ed. Even my AP Biology class spent only 1 day on the reproductive cycle. I’m not blaming the school or the lack of parent involvement for my girl coming into the world, but the school I went to had a really high pregnancy rate. The numbers should have been saying something a long time ago. We all should have been more educated. And it is not ALWAYS the girl who gets pregnant, but the couple.

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